tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821453265856551540.post4925932791100950180..comments2023-05-13T06:42:46.291-06:00Comments on Surrounded by Sea Monkeys...: Unfulfilled ExpectationsKarenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15740522091681274109noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821453265856551540.post-7733847647910023572009-10-04T22:13:09.882-06:002009-10-04T22:13:09.882-06:00All of you other comments are so thoughtful. My s...All of you other comments are so thoughtful. My sister is notorious for not making a decision, and that is her decision. Her theory is, "if you wait long, you won't have to make a decision." I am not advocating this for you, it seems to be okay for her. It makes me crazy. I am a planner,get things done and move on kind of girl. <br /><br />BTW, we will be your company anytime you need to have someone over. We won't even care if your house is picked up.Torihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09978608712654520975noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821453265856551540.post-25571918727554935612009-10-02T07:23:16.888-06:002009-10-02T07:23:16.888-06:00Oh I think it is a beautiful post. Gosh girl, I mi...Oh I think it is a beautiful post. Gosh girl, I missed you.<br /><br />My opinion (although we did not adopt) - the pregnancy is the least of the experience - raising the kids is what matters, It is what makes you a mom. Like the wedding - actually just a small event leading top a whole life behind it.cathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15788508986252339771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821453265856551540.post-8775963793750991562009-10-01T14:40:30.374-06:002009-10-01T14:40:30.374-06:00Very deep thoughts. I have had some similar with r...Very deep thoughts. I have had some similar with regard to infertility treatments. We did go through some of it (about 7 cycles) and had one miscarriage along the way. These are difficult questions. We were eventually unsuccessful but I discovered along the way I was doing it all because my family wanted to do it. I finally realized that I was satisfied with the way our lives were. But this is what I came to accept and embrace - Having a baby may add more fulfillment to my life but NOT having another baby does not take anything away from my already wonderful and satisfying life.<br /><br />After coming to that conclusion it was easy for me to decide to stop the fertility treatments and get back to giving all my attention to living the life I already loved. But without coming to that conclusion I know I would have continued. Would life be better or worse? Who knows, but now I have no regrets and not only accept my decision but live every day knowing that my life is still going great as it is. Good luck!Stacyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14790850780096080856noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821453265856551540.post-16241251934056744152009-10-01T13:20:28.780-06:002009-10-01T13:20:28.780-06:00I hope that writing about it has lifted you in way...I hope that writing about it has lifted you in ways I cannot imagine. I always wanted children and only tried for one year to get pregnant with my first. Now three children later, I don't think I could do it all over again...and I am just shy of 29. I often wonder how my life would be different if I would have waited.Screwed Up Texanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12105680865517952148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821453265856551540.post-63458106417868173392009-10-01T08:32:35.313-06:002009-10-01T08:32:35.313-06:00Wow Karen! Alot of things are going on in my life ...Wow Karen! Alot of things are going on in my life right now. I've never wanted kids. The thought of being a mother and being pregnant has never crossed my mind. But now that I'm almost 30 and seeing my sick grandmother surrounded by her children I think, "who'll take care of me?" Or like my mom when she was going through chemo for breast cancer. My sister and I took care and supported her. I don't want to go through life alone if something happened to Travis. My Gma was a widow at 53 years old. She told me if it wasn't for me (I was 5 when gpa passed) she wouldn't have survived. I spent every spare minute with her. And I'm so thankful for our close relationship today. If I didn't have children who would I spend my time with? My sister will have her own family. I have to do a lot of thinking and I know my husband would like a biological child, but I would rather adopt. I guess we'll just have to wait and see what the future holds.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821453265856551540.post-27136254920748870282009-10-01T05:58:29.582-06:002009-10-01T05:58:29.582-06:00Sometimes writing about it is the best way to get ...Sometimes writing about it is the best way to get it off your chest and out of your mind. When I do this, usually a solution will present itself. <br />I feel you for, I really, really do.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10399156539354549499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821453265856551540.post-90690507901197696982009-09-30T23:37:39.243-06:002009-09-30T23:37:39.243-06:00Uggh! Such a great great post. I have had that exa...Uggh! Such a great great post. I have had that exact feeling so so often -- wanting to have made a choice -- wanting it confirmed it was the right choice -- wanting none of that floating on down the river and wondering if I should have changed course upstream. BUT, I sometimes the decision hasn't been easy coming and the stream has carried me on down anyway, and at those times, I have to think that as I've tried to paddle through with no clear direction, the fact that we truly do have constant tiny proddings from the Holy Ghost has somehow still allowed for things to end up with me where I should be. Good luck to you and thoughts with you though! THis is not just some random issue, but something so eternal and I have no doubt that with something this significant you will not end up having made some wrong choice with out the Lord intervening for you!Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03045958241240870948noreply@blogger.com