Thursday, January 29, 2009

Life comes at you fast.

I need to start this off by saying, "I LOVE HUNTSVILLE, ALABAMA!!!!" Really, I do. Even when it is cold in the middle of winter. My trip was a much appreciated break from the usual mommy stuff that comes with being the mom. I must say being married to the Rocket Scientist has endless perks for me. Not many can boast about being sent on a "momcation" by their spouse and then have him brag about how much fun he had. Yes, he was really bragging about how much fun it was.

While I was there, one of the things I feared, did happen. My sweet 95 year-old grandmother passed away. She passed away not once but twice while we were away. I am not sure if that made it easier dealing with her passing or if just meant getting sad news twice. She has had a pace maker for years. So, as I understand it, she passed away, hospice notified the appropriate people, and sometime later the postmortem nurse shows up to do her thing and finds my grandmother breathing. You know, that pace maker noticed her heart was not beating and started to do it's job. So a day later, she made peace with her pace maker and passed away for good. Sorry, this is little morbid. I have two ways of dealing with death. They are shutting down and being completely dysfunctional or humor. This time around, there is a bit of both. Her obituary can be found at this link.

If you have ever lost a loved one who had to struggle for quality of life, no matter how short the time, you know what a relief their passing can be. Somehow though, that relief never dulls the sting of the loss. My grandmother was a character. I love her dearly. I didn't live near her until I was a teenager. I can honestly say that she helped smooth out a lot of my teen years. She took me to my first opera and my first ballet. She would negotiate with my dad (her son) on my behalf. I remember one time in particular when my father didn't want to let me go to a church dance. After many tears, my grandma said she would handle it. Turned out I got to go! A day or two later, I asked her how she did that. She smiled and said, "I just asked him how he felt when I didn't let him go to church dances?" She was the best grandma for me as a teenager. She had such a profound influence on my life that the Little Jamaican has my grandmother's name as her middle name. I will miss her dearly.

While I was away on my trip, we found out the Rocket Scientist's company no longer needs us to relocate. What a relief that is. As much as I love Huntsville, I really do not want to move right now.

One last thing........Krista, thank you for the birthday wishes. You are way too good to me. That is quite a bit to live up to. So, I will try not to let it stress me out. :)


Krista said...

Yea! I'm the first to leave a comment! I'm so sorry about your grandma. She was darling and I'm glad to have known her the little bit I did. Though it's comforting to know that she's in a better place and very happy it doesn't mean we don't miss the crap out of them. And we'll miss those we've lost until we are joined with them again. And then we'll be the one who's missed.

On a different note, I'm very glad you are not relocating to Alabama.

Krista said...

P.S. You don't have anything to live up to. But don't expect me to do that for every birthday! HA! No seriously. I'm sure I'll find many other things to love about you! ;0)

cat said...

Happy Birthday girl! I am so sorry about your gran, and yes, it is true that their passing is often a relief. But yes, it does not dull the pain on an emotional level. Love and light to you girl.

orangemily said...

Your grandma was truly wonderful and kind. It was fun to get to know her when she came to FHE each week.
Happy Belated Birthday!

Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry for you loss, but as you said she is in a better place.

I'm sad you won't be moving to Kansas!

I had thought of wishing you a happy bday on my blog but I wasn't for sure if you wanted everyone in cyberland to know.

Nancy said...

Happy Birthday! What a nice post your Krista wrote about you!

So sorry about your grandma. I really hoped she'd wait for your return.

Flea said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your grandma. Mine is 90 and that day is coming. I don't look forward to it. My deepest condolences.

Now Huntsville - I went to Huntsville for a week long sewing school one summer a few years ago. Took the kids. It's hot there in the summer. Orlando's hot, but with the ocean breeze at times. Huntsville, not so much. It's pretty enough, I guess.

My baby brother attended space camp there and loved it. But I'm glad you're staying put for awhile!

Flea said...

P.S. I'm tagging you in the morning.

Stacy said...

I am very sorry about your grandma. I wish I had a grandparent that lived long enough to enjoy them. She sounds like a special lady. I am glad you get to stay put. Moving sucks! And you like the kids school. Instead of moving, just unpack the few boxes you have left and feel FINISHED!

Tash said...

Sorry about your grandma. Funeral trips I have made have been my most memorable (2) but either way its an emotional event so it seems to burn the memory there. Well I had feared that I had neglected you and others but it looks like you have been busy as well!

P.S. Happy Birthday!